Many of us has encountered a teenager's tantrums every now and then . This post would not tell you how to handle it but definitely helps you to see the world from a teenager's prospective.
What we see as an adult
Many parents feel that parenting an adolescent is like walking on a tight rope.All of us has gone through our adolescence age and had our share of grievances with our parents. Some of us had very bad relationships with them but over the period it has been sorted out.
A couple of my friends who were in a very bad relationship with their father or mother are the best pals now.
Our generation had been brought up in a different way but now things are changing as our is a futuristic society so we do not want our kids to follow traditional occupation.Thus, we are playing a tug of war between our old traditional baggage and the fast changing environment. However, for our generation, it is a new learning process as we are also growing up with them.
From a teenager prospective
Today's teenagers are very proactive and want to try out every thing by their own. They have lots of exposure through various medias and their life is very fast-moving. Today they are into something and tomorrow it will be a history. They feel that they are an adult and can try out anything by their own. They do not like too much interference or nagging. They want respect, acceptance and approval for their decisions from their parents/others. Sometimes, they are still like the kids of yesteryear but want to be treated like an adult.
What could be the strategies to get a positive result
Whatever be the situation at your home, the key is to keep the communication alive between you and the teenager. No matter what your son or daughter are doing with you, keep giving them your undivided time and energy. Without telling us directly, they keep sending us cues and hints that they want to talk to us, do not ignore it. Try to find out exclusive time with each other by going on shopping together, enrolling in any activity or just going out for a walk.Spending just a few moments daily would make a big difference.
Enjoy and appreciate this time with your teenager
Teenage is a very limited period in ones's life referring to the years 13 to 19 but during this time only they are having major psychological,physical and social development. So, let them enjoy this period with a proper guidance/suggestion but do not interfere or micromanage their life. Be always with them in good or bad times as it is very easy for them to fall into bad habits without proper direction. This time will never come back as they say with the birth of your child you relive your childhood; with a teenager go through the lanes of your adolescence once again.
What we see as an adult
Many parents feel that parenting an adolescent is like walking on a tight rope.All of us has gone through our adolescence age and had our share of grievances with our parents. Some of us had very bad relationships with them but over the period it has been sorted out.
A couple of my friends who were in a very bad relationship with their father or mother are the best pals now.
Our generation had been brought up in a different way but now things are changing as our is a futuristic society so we do not want our kids to follow traditional occupation.Thus, we are playing a tug of war between our old traditional baggage and the fast changing environment. However, for our generation, it is a new learning process as we are also growing up with them.
From a teenager prospective
Today's teenagers are very proactive and want to try out every thing by their own. They have lots of exposure through various medias and their life is very fast-moving. Today they are into something and tomorrow it will be a history. They feel that they are an adult and can try out anything by their own. They do not like too much interference or nagging. They want respect, acceptance and approval for their decisions from their parents/others. Sometimes, they are still like the kids of yesteryear but want to be treated like an adult.
What could be the strategies to get a positive result
Whatever be the situation at your home, the key is to keep the communication alive between you and the teenager. No matter what your son or daughter are doing with you, keep giving them your undivided time and energy. Without telling us directly, they keep sending us cues and hints that they want to talk to us, do not ignore it. Try to find out exclusive time with each other by going on shopping together, enrolling in any activity or just going out for a walk.Spending just a few moments daily would make a big difference.
Enjoy and appreciate this time with your teenager
Teenage is a very limited period in ones's life referring to the years 13 to 19 but during this time only they are having major psychological,physical and social development. So, let them enjoy this period with a proper guidance/suggestion but do not interfere or micromanage their life. Be always with them in good or bad times as it is very easy for them to fall into bad habits without proper direction. This time will never come back as they say with the birth of your child you relive your childhood; with a teenager go through the lanes of your adolescence once again.
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